You are here because you are hurting, anxious, do not sleep well, saddened by a broken relationship or traumatized by unexpected life events. You want relief, of course, but you also want something valuable to emerge from this experience so your pain and suffering aren't wasted. You desire to be stronger, more mature.

My approach focuses on three themes that work in harmony with one another to create compassion, calm, courage, balance, mindfulness and joy in your life:

SELF DISCIPLINE - SELF LOVE - SELF LEADERSHIP

"We do not rise to the level of our expectations. We fall to the level of our training.
​- Archilochus

If you can thoughtfully arrange one day of your life, you can thoughtfully arrange an entire year. By observing what you do at the beginning of your day, the middle of the day and the end of the day we will examine where you are being mindful or mindless. Bringing moment-to-moment awareness to the ordinary moments of life will prepare you to better manage the more challenging events. This awareness will allow you respond to situations instead of react to them.

“Can you be grateful for everything? No. No one can be grateful for war or pain or suffering of a loved one. But within every moment, there is an opportunity to be grateful for something.
​- David Stendl-Rast

To love yourself you must learn to love your body. When you feel fear or are deeply saddened this is your body's nervous systems working properly. Befriending and understanding how your body responds will help you understand how to calm yourself in times of distress. Pain, whether physical or psychological, is an alert that something isn't right and needs your attention. As you become more mindful, learning to love yourself will naturally follow. Then when your life falls apart, as it surely will from time-to-time, gratitude will open doors you didn't know existed even in the midst of the traumas of everyday life.

"I have sworn upon the altar of God,
​eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man."
​- Thomas Jefferson

Compassion. Calm. Courage. Connected. Creativity. Curiosity. Confidence. Clarity. All these are qualities of the Internal Family System's (IFS) model for Self Leadership. Along with your Self we will get to know your many "parts". Our minds are composed of distinct "parts" (i.e. "Part of me wants to exercise but another part wants to stay in my warm bed.") Each part wants to bring you something good but may be stuck in an "extreme role" with outdated assumptions and false beliefs. The goal is for your internal system (Self & Parts) to collaborate so you can quickly adapt to life's challenges. In the IFS model there is no need to go looking for what to work on, it is readily revealed to you through your emotions which are your parts way of showing you what is important.