If you are not going to therapy to work on yourself and change your behavior then you are wasting your time and money. Why? Because the only thing you really have control over is yourself, your thoughts and your behavior.
Many people come to therapy to work through the issues caused by the people in their life who won't go to therapy. They end up leaving therapy early feeling disappointed and convinced therapy doesn’t work.
Therapy is one of the very few places in life where you are encouraged to be selfish. Make it all about you! Talk at length about yourself, your thoughts, your problems, your hopes and dreams without any fear of the information coming back later in an argument. I tell clients one of the biggest benefits of therapy is that you won't see around your Thanksgiving table. Your secrets are safe.
Therapy has a simple formula for success: The harder you work on yourself the better your life will become. If you set your intentions from the outset to do the work necessary to become a better person, you will most assuredly become a better person. This a natural universal law: whatever you focus on will prosper.
The only reason anyone should go to therapy is to understand themselves better so they can think deeply about their life. This constructive and illuminating process inevitably leads to peace with yourself and more healthy relationships. If you can do that you will become the master of your life and the captain of your fate. Therapy can help you achieve that.