Recently I found myself sitting with two friends in first class on a Southwest flight (yes, those lovely seats with lots of leg room but nowhere to put your bags). We were headed to a men’s retreat in California. The flight was several hours long so there was plenty of time to settle into some good conversation.
We talked about family, kids, business, life, whatever. Somewhere around hour two the conversation deepened. At one point one of the guys asked the question, “What are you avoiding?” Like a sudden strong gust of wind the question caught me off guard. I stopped and repeated it to myself then to my friends. In a matter of moments I flashed back over several of the most difficult and painful experiences of my life and recognized that they all had something in common. That commonality was me avoiding doing the work I knew needed to be done.
If I could encourage you to do one thing to improve your life, your marriage, your relationship with your kids, your work, your finances, your health it would be to ask yourself the question, “What am I avoiding right now?” Then do something. Don't just think about it. You'll thank me in ten years.