POLYPSYCHOLOGYHelps you understand your mind in multiplicity and how to create inner calm and peace |
ENNEAGRAMThis system represents how you interpret the world through your unique personality |
ADULT ATTACHMENTThis system identifies your needs in relationships regarding intimacy, security, and availability |
HOW YOUR MIND WORKS
Do you remember your first smartphone? Remember the feeling of excitement opening the box and peeling back the plastic screen protector to reveal the pristine glass and metal?
What did you do next? You turned it on and walked through a few steps until up popped the home screen. What was on it? Apps, right? The phone, mail, calendar, text, etc. Those were the preconfigured default settings that come with every phone. Guess what? Your mind is the same way. In all of its complexity your mind comes biologically pre-wired with its DEFAULT SETTINGS. These DEFAULT SETTINGS form your unique temperament. Your temperament holds the essential, enduring characteristics of your very nature. This is why you wake up essentially the same person every day. Think of how chaotic life would be if when you went to bed you had no idea who you would wake up to be in the morning? Your enduring temperament is a great gift. Yet there’s a catch. Let’s go back to your smartphone. The DEFAULT SETTINGS on your phone are just the starting point. I know that if I were to open up your phone right now I would find dozens, if not hundreds, of nonnative apps like |
social media, banking, credit cards, dating, health and fitness, games, etc. That is because you adapted your phone to help make your life run smoother. Remember when we used to drive to the bank to deposit a check?
Your mind is the same way. Your temperament is just a starting point not the end of the story. The study of the mind goes back to at least 550 BC when Greek philosopher Thales coined the term psyche. Modern psychology, with the aid of the scientific method, has devised ways to demystify human behavior into ways of helping us understand why we do what we do. We can take personality assessments to understand ourselves better. We can learn about our adult attachment styles and how it impacts our romantic relationships. We can go to therapy to delve into our unconscious motivations. These and other explorations of the mind take us far beyond our starting point, our DEFAULT SETTINGS as I call them, into higher and higher realms of self-awareness and emotional intelligence toward the goal of a life rich with meaning, purpose, and authentic happiness. |