A Short Note W/ A Powerful Message

Couples who ignore their problems will eventually be consumed by them. Not because the problems themselves are unbearable, but because what gets ignored doesn't disappear — it just moves underground and waits. 

The fight you avoided last month becomes the resentment that colors this month's conversation, which becomes the distance that defines next year's relationship. Then one day you wake up next to someone you love but realize you haven't told them the truth in longer than you can remember.

Addressing problems head on is the foundation of everything in Couples in Crisis work. Every stage of the framework — Deciding, Safety, Connection, Solving — exists because couples need somewhere to put the truth they've been avoiding. Avoidance may feel safer in the moment but it is not the same as true peace. It's just delayed work and  that delay, given enough time, becomes its own kind of damage.

The things you're avoiding in your relationship today are not going away on their own. They are waiting for you to have the courage to face them.

Reb Buxton, M.A., O.S.B. works with Couples in Crisis and individual work through the Quiet Strength framework. All sessions are virtual.

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